I failed and i am glad i did...







 Dedicated to all Respected Ladies I know

Generally i don’t write Blogs (Notes) now days... (Though I want to write more often)   in fact it’s rare now that i anything apart from writing business mails... Life is kind of dedicated to writing mails from outlook - Accenture account :) So why suddenly on a Chilly Monday morning i am writing this blog to all Ladies out there…

Reason is simple - a realization; something which i always thought that i knew or understand it but i never did... what i knew was miles away from  reality... ok i know you are going crazy ki kyaa bol raha hai - so let’s come to point –

4 days back i.e. on Friday Morning Sheetal (my dear wife) has to go to Varanasi; and we took a decision that Shubh (my 6 old year son) will stay with me in Pune... Sheetal was bit skeptical if i will be able to manage and i always like a cool chap said - don't worry yar; i will manage i am capable of it and what not (Damn overconfidence!! ).

Her flight left from Mumbai on Friday morning and me and Shubh started journey back to Pune and from then - next 4 days was an experience to cherish, To learn, To unlearn and experience some things which i will remember for my lifetime - this 4 days has taught me so much that i as a father never learned in 6 years of my fatherhood :)

First thing which striked me is what about food... what will Shubh eat; he is not a fussy boy in eating but he hates Fast food and junk food – Ya you heard it right J and this made things difficult for me as i have to ensure he gets proper Roti Sabji and all; and i am not that great cook... mix of my cooking skill and cooking skill of Nearby Restra’s Chef saved me... :)

Small small things were task in itself... Giving him milk ( with his fav choc brand), Breakfast, food, his sleeping time, his class, where is he going for playing in society, bathing - and choosing a dress which he like, to get his homework done, to ensure he study daily and what not….

He was not at all demanding - but all this basic stuff need to be done with my office work + my daily chores was proving to be difficult - a hell lot of time management issues... i gave up on reading my newspaper (something which i take as a ritual for 1 hour daily), gave up on my food choices, cut short on my office timing, missed meetings. Skipped my Tea when milk was less at one morning to ensure he gets his glass full of milk...

 Point is not to let you know i sacrificed etc... point is i realized what it takes to bring up a child... point is how much i was wrong in concluding that daily chores to manage a child is not a big deal... point is how i found myself inadequate to do so; point is how i failed to even know where are his color pencils, socks and Water bottle is kept... i failed and i am glad i did


This 4 days brought me more close to Shubh then i ever felt before... we had some great time together; watched Dhoom; stayed awake till 1 AM; heard him talking his heart out; realizing he has grown up - when he was missing you and had tears in eyes and when i saw it - he simply said - "Papa mai ro nahi raha hu... aakh me kachra chala gaya hai isliye pani aa raha hai"

These 4 days made me wonder how Sheetal cope up with me, parv, shubh, house hold stuff and lot more without any support system and still manages it with ease…  How all beautiful & respected ladies out there manage their kids along with your personal stuff & work and still keep glowing in every next pic you post... :)

Overall Salute to all you... the women in you who is multi-tasking at all fronts and at times it’s taken for granted... at time the real worth of it is not known for ever... at times we just don’t realize that you are giving up on your hobbies, on your daily fav stuff, and changing your routine to get kids raised up in best possible way...

My respect has grown by multiple bounds for each one of you; for what you are doing from years; and i was finding difficult to do it for just 4 days.

You all are great...  Take my bow - you deserve it

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